Question 1

Who is most likely to be lonely?

Accepted Answer

Anyone can be lonely at any stage of life, and most people will experience loneliness at some point. That said, there are some groups that are more likely to be lonely than others.

One study found that men are more likely to be lonely than women, with 63% of men reporting loneliness compared with 58% of women.
Another study found that women were more likely to report loneliness, but only due to a reluctance to report among men.
Other research uncovered that younger people (aged 16-24) report more loneliness, although the negative consequences of loneliness are often much more serious for the elderly.

Question 2

What is the root cause of loneliness?

Accepted Answer

There is no one root cause of loneliness; different people can experience loneliness to different degrees at various points in their lives. Often, circumstances like the end of a relationship will lead to increased feelings of loneliness.

That said, some psychologists believe that childhood experiences can be predictors of loneliness, largely because of the effect they have on attachment styles. An insecure attachment style can contribute to trouble in interpersonal relationships later in life, which may lead to loneliness.

Three other common causes of loneliness are:

Social anxiety

Social anxiety or phobia goes beyond simple shyness. Rather than feeling uncomfortable or awkward in social situations, those with social anxiety have substantial, often unmanageable fear that others are harshly judging them, or even hate them. This can prevent people from making the connections necessary to create healthy social interaction.

Depression

Just as loneliness can cause depression, depression can be a causal factor for loneliness. The despair and hopelessness associated with clinical depression can cause a person to withdraw from the world, and social isolation can be the first step.

Low self-esteem

Low self-esteem can make a person feel unworthy of social interaction or attention. People with low self-esteem might socially isolate themselves because they feel they are unworthy of participation in social situations, or fear the reactions they anticipate others might have to their presence.

Question 3

What does loneliness do to the brain?

Accepted Answer

Research into the structure of the brain indicates that social interaction is a key component in building a healthy brain, while loneliness can have a negative impact on neurological development.

Reduced social interaction may be associated with lessened growth in key areas of the brain, such as the prefrontal cortex, which is the area of the brain responsible for decision making, the hippocampus, an area of the brain closely associated with memory and learning, and the amygdala, which is responsible for processing emotions.

Indeed, some research has suggested that the more social a person is, the larger their amygdala is likely to be.

Question 4

What does loneliness do to a person?

Accepted Answer

In addition to having adverse effects on one’s mental and emotional health, loneliness can have a serious negative impact on a person’s physical health. Like other experiences that create stress, loneliness can actually make you sick.

The consequences of loneliness can manifest differently for different people, but some of the most common include:

Question 5

Is it bad to be alone all the time?

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While parsing the negative consequences of being alone, it’s important to distinguish between voluntary temporary solitude—like choosing to stay home instead of going to a party—and perceived social isolation, i.e., loneliness. When you choose to be alone, it can be refreshing and calming.

Being unwillingly alone all the time, however, can lead to loneliness, which can negatively impact both physical and mental health. Persistent loneliness can lead to depression or exacerbate extant depressive tendencies, and has been linked to some personality disorders and psychoses.

Loneliness can also impair a person’s cognitive functioning and executive control, eventually leading to a heightened risk of developing Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia, particularly for older people. Furthermore, being alone can exacerbate terminal illnesses, such as some forms of cancer, potentially shortening lifespan.

Being alone all the time is especially risky for older people. Those who are at higher risk of physical injury may find themselves injured, and have trouble getting help.

Ultimately, those who are in good health and enjoy spending time alone shouldn’t worry that it affects their wellbeing. If you wish to be more social and combat feelings of loneliness, however, connecting with a licensed professional can help give you the tools to do so.

Question 6

How can you tell if someone is lonely?

Accepted Answer

Loneliness can be hard to detect in others, but if you notice any of the following symptoms in a friend or loved one, it may be worth checking in to make sure they’re ok:

Lowered energy levels
Decreased appetite
Consistent sickness or body aches
Increased substance use
Increased insecurity or self-doubt
Increased spending

If you’re worried someone you care about is feeling lonely, reach out to them and remind them you’re there. Show them some extra love, so they know they’re cared for.

You can also suggest that they might benefit from talking with a therapist or counselor.

Question 7

Can loneliness age you?

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ChroniC loneliness is associated with an increased risk of physical health issues such as dementia, heart disease, and stroke, all of which can wear on the body and mind in ways similar to aging. Loneliness is also linked to an increased risk of depression and anxiety.

Elderly people are at a higher risk of feeling lonely, because they are more likely to live by themselves or have a chronic illness or disability that makes participating in some social activities more difficult. The complications associated with social isolation often exacerbate and intensify the health complications older adults already experience.

Research also suggests that those who are socially active and partake in social activities tend to live longer and have better cognitive function as they age.

Question 8

How do you deal with loneliness after a separation or divorce?

Accepted Answer

Dealing with loneliness after a separation or divorce is undoubtedly hard, but rest assured that there are ways to cope. You may wish you could speed along your healing process, but learning to accept the feelings you are having is the first step.

While jumping into a new relationship may sound like a great way to beat loneliness, it’s important to take time to heal. Focusing on self-care, leaning on your support structure, and seeking the help of a therapist can all be important tools for coping with loneliness after a separation or divorce.

Question 9

How do you fight off loneliness?

Accepted Answer

There are quite a few ways to fight off loneliness. Though it’s sometimes brought on by unavoidable events, there are certain lifestyle changes you can make to help prevent chronic loneliness.

Keep in touch with family and friends: There’s nothing like spending time together in person, but video chat is also a great way to stay connected to loved ones who are far away. Consistent contact with the people close to you is a great way to remind yourself of the support network you have.

Try new things: Whether you’re checking out a new restaurant, trying a new hobby, or working to learn a new language, trying something new is a great way to meet people while giving yourself a sense of purpose and accomplishment.

Participate in local events: Taking part in events in your community—whether you’re volunteering at the local animal shelter or running your town’s annual 5K—can introduce you to new people, and help you feel connected to the wider community.

Consider adopting a pet: Pets are wonderful companions, and can offer their owners a sense of purpose and kinship. Having a furry friend around the house is a great way to feel less alone, assuming you are comfortable taking on the responsibility of having a pet.

Get outside: Nature, and especially sunlight, have been scientifically proven to help improve your mood and overall happiness. Plus, hiking, biking, and other outdoor activities can be a great way to meet new people.

Try to enjoy spending time alone: This may be easier said than done, but try to take the pressure off and just enjoy time with yourself as much as you can. Choosing a specific activity to focus on can help you feel engaged and in the moment.

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