What Are the 4 Attachment Styles?

In attachment theory, the 4 attachment styles are:

  1. Secure. People with a secure attachment style are confident in their relationships and have good self-esteem. They can function independently while giving and getting support from their partner when needed. 

  2. Avoidant (also referred to as dismissive). Those with an avoidant attachment style are often highly independent and don't want to rely on others for emotional fulfillment, so they avoid emotional closeness. 

  3. Anxious (also referred to as preoccupied). Those of us with an anxious attachment style are often overwhelmed with anxiety at the thought of our partners leaving us. They need constant reassurance from their partner that they won't be abandoned, and can be described as clingy. 

  4. Disorganized (also referred to as fearful-avoidant). People with disorganized attachment style may crave intimacy but also fear it, because they fear they may get hurt. These individuals may have trouble regulating their emotions as a result of neglect or abuse. This is the least common attachment style.  

Attachment issues stem from childhood, based on our relationships with caregivers and parents.

How to get help with relationship issues

If you’re having a challenging time with relationship issues, consider talking with a licensed therapist who specializes in avoidant personality disorder and/or therapists with expertise in attachment-based issues.

Find out your attachment style 

Take our 3-Minute Attachment Style Test to find out your personal attachment style, and you'll get a free customized report.

Knowing your attachment style is helpful to developing a better understanding of your interactions and behavior in relationships. Results are completely confidential.


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