Healing from the residual effects of adverse childhood experience needs to go beyond talking about it. The effects live on in the nervous system and the body. You learned how to survive in dangerous, neglectful circumstances but not how to live comfortably in otherwise normal, relatively safe ones. Your fear system needs to be attuned to current circumstances and skills you never had the chance to learn need to be acquired. Over time you unlearn the ways that once served your very survival, but now are often overreactions to otherwise relatively safe situations. You acquire skills that are foundational to success in relationships, career and life in general.