What are the 4 types of relationships?

The four types of relationships are:

  1. Competitive/controlling

  2. Active/passive

  3. Aggressive/accommodating

  4. Accepting/balanced

Definitions of each type are included below:

A competitive/controlling relationship is characterized by intense competition between partners on whose ways are better, whose career is more important, whose standards are better, and who wins an argument. It is also characterized by frequent power struggles and battles over who should make critical decisions.

Active/passive relationship is where one partner is in charge and makes most decisions with the other partner going along. Although it is an imbalanced relationship, there are fewer arguments and competition.

Aggressive/accommodating relationship is based on raw power, with one partner taking full charge and the other going along less out of passivity and more out of fear. Although the controlling partner often explodes in fits of anger, there is little real conflict in this relationship. However, this relationship is often characterized by emotional and physical abuse.

Accepting /balanced relationship has all the characteristics of an ideal relationship. The couples typically work together as a team and recognize and accept each other's strengths and weaknesses. They solve problems amicably and strive to build a caring and relaxed climate.

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